My No Weight Loss Journey 

I’ve attempted periodically throughout the last few years to lose weight. I start off good, eating better and exercising….. Then I stop and gain all the weight I lost back. Since I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately I contemplated this. Why do I stop trying to lose weight? The answer I came up with is this…… Men.

I currently weigh 217 pounds and men hit on me even though I am not interested. I start losing weight and get hit on more so, subconsciously I start thinking weigh more equals less getting hit on. I truly want to be 130 pounds again…. I just don’t want men to think they have the right to hit on me like I look like I do because I want a man. I just want to be healthy and feel good about myself. 

I recently wrote a blog post called Guys, It’s Not Okay talking about how it’s not okay to assume that a girl is into a guy because she speaks to him. Well, it’s also not okay to think that girl is good looking in your eyes so therefore she wants to have sex with you. No. Girls look good because they want to look good. It helps them feel good about themselves. Powerful. Able to accomplish anything. 

This society has allowed men to objectify women. Women are seen as sexual beings when truth is…… It’s really men. I think men think waaay more about sex than the average woman does. Don’t get me wrong I like a good bout of sex but I learned from a bunch of males how to take almost anything and see it as something sexual. I hate to say it but it’s so much harder to go back to the innocent thought process after learning that than going back to white after black. 

Well, knowing this anyway,  why I stop trying to lose weight, I’m going to try again. Maybe I’ll succeed this time, maybe I won’t but, guys could help by not making the sexual comments that seem to spew out of their mouths without thought. 

 

 

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LIfe Gets Better As You Get Older

Life gets better as you get older? Who believes this? Sure as you get older you no longer have to be under the restrictions your parents give you….but then you have the restrictions of work, your own children, bills, homeownership, etc. So how does life get better as you get older?

I feel life gets better as you choose it to be. If you can in your own mind rationalize that things in your life are not really that awful….that someone, somewhere has things worse than you….you can realize that your life is better and in fact really is pretty good. If you can take the time to slow down, look around and find something beautiful in the world around you…you can realize that yeah your life is pretty darn good.

So you have too much work to do and too many bills to pay….the economy sucks…. there are too many unemployed people….the price of gas and everything else is too high…. but ….. you are missing the ordinary miracles….

STOP! Take a break. Look outside. If the sun is shining…. enjoy it… Flowers, grass, fresh air, rainbows, even a nice steady rain can be beautiful if you take the time to look and watch…. Wildlife…who doesn’t love to see a wild animal on the side of the road (preferably alive ūüôā lol) or in your own backyard. Children playing… Your significant other… Beauty is everywhere.. just look for it.

So even though I do not believe life gets better as you get older, Life DOES get better.