My No Weight Loss Journey 

I’ve attempted periodically throughout the last few years to lose weight. I start off good, eating better and exercising….. Then I stop and gain all the weight I lost back. Since I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately I contemplated this. Why do I stop trying to lose weight? The answer I came up with is this…… Men.

I currently weigh 217 pounds and men hit on me even though I am not interested. I start losing weight and get hit on more so, subconsciously I start thinking weigh more equals less getting hit on. I truly want to be 130 pounds again…. I just don’t want men to think they have the right to hit on me like I look like I do because I want a man. I just want to be healthy and feel good about myself. 

I recently wrote a blog post called Guys, It’s Not Okay talking about how it’s not okay to assume that a girl is into a guy because she speaks to him. Well, it’s also not okay to think that girl is good looking in your eyes so therefore she wants to have sex with you. No. Girls look good because they want to look good. It helps them feel good about themselves. Powerful. Able to accomplish anything. 

This society has allowed men to objectify women. Women are seen as sexual beings when truth is…… It’s really men. I think men think waaay more about sex than the average woman does. Don’t get me wrong I like a good bout of sex but I learned from a bunch of males how to take almost anything and see it as something sexual. I hate to say it but it’s so much harder to go back to the innocent thought process after learning that than going back to white after black. 

Well, knowing this anyway,  why I stop trying to lose weight, I’m going to try again. Maybe I’ll succeed this time, maybe I won’t but, guys could help by not making the sexual comments that seem to spew out of their mouths without thought. 

 

 

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Guys, It’s Not Okay 

Guys, 

Girls are not here just for sex. They are here for companionship. Girls don’t talk to you just because they are interested in sex. There is probably something about you that interests them but until they get to know you better to know that you are a decent guy it isn’t about sex. It’s not okay to think this way. It’s the whole reason things like rape happens…. In my opinion. Learn to be a companion first. That I believe is the point of dating. Not to get the girl into your bed. Date them. Get to really know them as a friend and companion before the intimacy. It will show her that you respect her and truly care for her. 

I hope to instill this thought process into my son, despite his father. I hope our future generations learn from ours. I hope that someday women are seen as the equals they really are to men. 

Companionship. Trust. Respect. Love. 

Help 4 Shannon!

My friend Rosemarie is Shannon’s mother. Shannon was diagnosed with Pots Syndrome which I have learned is a form of dysautonomia. (for those who don’t know, what little I understand of it, a person who deals with this is that in the standing position their blood pressure drops, which is not a good thing- anyone more knowledgeable than I feel free to correct me I would hate to give out misinformation)
Anyway due to the costs of dealing with the disease I have learned my dear friends are struggling and could end up losing their home.
If you are able and willing to help out and make a donation I’ve posted the link below. If you are unable to help financial prayers and good thoughts are greatly welcome.
http://www.gofundme.com/7hf6ek
Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

BrokenWing

“With her broken wing she carries her dreams. Man, you ought to see her fly.”

This is from the song “Broken Wing” by Martina McBride. It is the inspiration for my dream. My dream like many dreams keeps changing and I hope improving.

It started with me going to college. I started the criminal justice associates program with the intention of becoming a forensic specialist. After a couple of Ecology classes I realized I am way too much of a farmer for that. So … what will I do with my degree….

Then it hit me. I’ll start a farm of my own. On this farm not only will we grow fruits, vegetables, herbs, and animals but we will help out women in the community. Lots of women’s shelters will not allow pets and the farm would be an alternative.

But I also like working with and helping out juveniles (teenagers). So I decided I also want to work with the juvenile diversion program. Have the kids work the farm…planting and weeding and harvesting… They will perform the community service that is decreed by the court by doing work that will end up benefiting the community as this food the community will eat. Wholesome and healthy fresh grown foods. Maybe a few kids will find that farming is for them and end up being successful and responsible members of the community by being farmers.

BrokenWing Farm will be the place where people with broken wings go and learn to fly.